Benjamin Franklin Award—Best Religion Book of the Year
Core Collection in Religion, American Library Association's Booklist
Selected as Outstanding by Parent Council ® Editor's Choice, American Library Association's Booklist
How to Be a Perfect Stranger, Vol. 1: A Guide to Etiquette in Other People's Religious Ceremonies

It's increasingly common to be invited to a wedding, funeral or other religious service for someone of a different faith. This easy-to-read religious etiquette guidebook helps the well-meaning guest feel comfortable and participate as fully as possible.

Edited by Stuart M. Matlins and Arthur J. Magida

6 x 9, 432 pp | 978-1-893361-01-0

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ALA Booklist “Editor’s Choice”
“Best Reference Book” Award
Recommended by Booklist for addition to library’s core
collection for general works on religion.

“The things Miss Manners forgot to tell us about religion.”

The L A. Times

These easy-to-use guidebooks help the well-meaning guest of any other faith feel at ease, participate to the fullest extent possible, and avoid violating anyone’s religious principles or hurting their feelings. Not a guide to theology. Not presented from the perspective of any particular faith.

What will happen? What do I do? What do I wear? What do I say? When is it OK to leave? What should I avoid doing, wearing, or saying? What are their basic beliefs? Should I bring a gift? These are just a few of the basic, very practical questions answered in How to Be a Perfect Stranger, two books that belong in every living room, library, and office. Originally published in hardcover by Jewish Lights Publishing, these updated and expanded trade paperback editions now include information for the Canadian branches of each faith, plus an added chapter on the largest Protestant denomination in Canada, The United Church of Canada.

VOL.1: How to Be a Perfect Stranger¬†¬†is based on information obtained from authorities of each religion. Assemblies of God; Baptist; Buddhist; The Christian Church (Disciples of Christ); Churches of Christ; Christian Science (Church of Christ, Scientist); Episcopalian and Anglican; Greek Orthodox; Hindu; Islam; Jehovah’s Witnesses; Jewish; Lutheran; Methodist; Mormon (Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints); Presbyterian; Quaker (Religious Society of Friends); Roman Catholic; Seventh-day Adventist; United Church of Canada; United Church of Christ.

“The things Miss Manners forgot to tell us about religion.”

Los Angeles Times

“Finally, for those inclined to undertake their own spiritual journeys ... tells visitors what to expect.”

New York Times

“Deftly edited ... outstanding.... [A] well-researched guide to a significant understanding of many of today’s religions.... Very strongly recommended.”

Midwest Book Review

“Enables the stranger to hold fast to the integrity of their own tradition while stepping onto someone else’s holy ground.... Concise, informative and eminently practical.”

Rev. Christopher Leighton, executive director, Institute for Christian-Jewish Studies

“The central idea here is excellent.... A perfect gift.”

Publishers Weekly

“Highly recommended.”

Library Journal

“Invaluable.... Concise, readable and user-friendly.... Responds to a vital need.... Builds bridges between faith communities.”

Montreal Anglican

“Should be on the bookshelves of anyone who has family members, friends or colleagues belonging to different religions.... Remarkably comprehensive.”

“[An] incredible resource.”

Messenger: A Guide for Life’s Adventure

“[This] book couldn’t have come at a better time.... A welcome Stranger.”

Chicago Sun-Times

“Highly recommended....We encourage all people of faith to read it, refer to it often and use it as their guide when visiting other communities of faith.”

Rev. Ken Brookner Langston, director of education, The Interfaith Alliance

“Enables strangers to be better neighbors in a global community.”

Prof. John L. Esposito, director, Center for Muslim-Christian Understanding, Georgetown University

“You’ll never again feel uncomfortable attending services of a religion not your own, after reading this wonderful book.”

Rabbi Jack Bemporad, director, Center for Christian-Jewish Understanding, Sacred Heart University, Fairfield, Connecticut