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The Sacred Art of Lovingkindness: Preparing to Practice

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Shows you that by choosing to act out of love rather than fear, with kindness rather than anger, you can transform how you perceive the world and ultimately lead a more complete spiritual life.

Rabbi Rami Shapiro
Foreword by Marcia Ford

5½ x 8½, 176 pp | 978-1-59473-151-8

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Open your heart and mind and discover—through the sacred art of lovingkindness—the image and likeness of God in yourself and others.

“The question at the heart of this book is this: Will you engage this moment with kindness or with cruelty, with love or with fear, with generosity or scarcity, with a joyous heart or an embittered one? This is your choice and no one can make it for you…. Heaven and hell are both inside of you. It is your choice that determines just where you reside.”

—from the Introduction

We are all born in the image of God, but living out the likeness of God is a choice. This inspiring, practical guidebook provides you with the tools you need to realize the divinity within yourself, recognize the divinity within others, and act on the obligation to manifest God’s infinite compassion in your own life.

Guided by Rabbi Rami Shapiro, you will explore Judaism’s Thirteen Attributes of Lovingkindness as the framework for cultivating a life of goodness. Shapiro translates these attributes into practices—drawn from the teachings of a variety of faith traditions—that allow you to actualize God’s glory through personal deeds of lovingkindness. You will enrich your own capacity for lovingkindness as you:

  • Harvest kindness through compassionate honesty
  • Make room in your heart for reality
  • Recognize the manifestations of God
  • Embrace the paradoxical truth of not-knowing
  • Be present in the moment
  • Do right by others

With candor, wit, and honesty, Shapiro shows you that by choosing to act out of love rather than fear, with kindness rather than anger, you can transform how you perceive the world and ultimately lead a more complete spiritual life.

“Powerful and rich … written so skillfully and accessibly that it will be read by peoples from all traditions. Opens for us the great beauty and necessity of kindness in the world today.”

Roshi Joan Halifax, abbot, Upaya Zen Center

“[A] masterpiece … a practical, inspiring, engrossing and very helpful ecumenical how-to based on the Jewish supermantra.”

Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi, author of First Steps to a New Jewish Spirit: Reb Zalman’s Guide to Recapturing the Intimacy and Ecstasy in Your Relationship with God

“Touches the very heart of spirituality. Its message has the ring of universal truth. Drawing from many traditions and faiths, [it] highlights the essence of all spiritual teachings and the secret of inspired living.”

Swami Adiswarananda, Minister and Spiritual Leader, Ramakrishna-Vivekananda Center of New York and author of The Vedanta Way to Peace and Happiness

“A blessing—both as a book and as a roadmap for spiritual growth…. Renders the path of the heart clear and accessible with insight, wisdom, and humor. This may be my favorite book of all times.”

Joan Borysenko, PhD, author of A Woman’s Journey to God  and Seven Paths to God



">It is a fantasy to think that enlightened people are naturally good and kind. I know too many gurus, sages, rabbis, pastors, and priests who have had incredible encounters with God, yet treat others with contempt. Unfortunately, the one does not preclude the other. Altered states of consciousness like enlightenment do not of themselves bring about altered traits of behavior like compassion.

It is not that difficult to experience an altered state of consciousness. Nor is it that hard to grasp the philosophical systems of those saints and sages who speak from a fully enlightened perspective. But to know the truth is not the same as to do the good.

What is difficult is putting other people first. What is difficult is not allowing selfishness to determine your behavior. What is difficult is to act with love and kindness when your emotions are raging with anger and frustration.

No, you don_t have to be enlightened to be kind. But you may have to be kind in order to be enlightened.

Your book draws on the teachings and practices of many different religions. Do you ever worry that we water down religion when we don't focus on just one faith?

We water down religion when we ignore the differences among religions and pretend they are all one. I am not comfortable with people who try to make all religions fit together in one loving chorus of _Kumbaya._ Religions are different and often mutually exclusive. But I am not interested in religion in this book. I am interested in lovingkindness and how to cultivate it. I am not interested in ideas religions may have about love, but in the practices they offer to help us become more loving.

You don_t have to be a Buddhist to practice compassion (metta), or a Jew to make Sabbath. You only have to practice compassion and make Sabbath.

This book is not an attempt to water down religion, but to challenge people to deepen their practice of compassion by adopting proven techniques for doing so from the world's great religions.

If you had to choose one biblical practice to share with the world, what would it be?

Given the title of this book, it is not surprising that I choose _love your neighbor as yourself_ (Leviticus 19:18). Note that the Bible does not say, _love your neighbor as you love yourself._ Loving your neighbor has nothing do with loving yourself and everything to do with realizing that your neighbor is yourself, that self and other are part of a greater whole I call God.

But there is more to this than that. Because Biblical Hebrew is written without vowels, the Hebrew word for _neighbor_ (rayecha) can also be read as rahecha, your evil. The Bible could be saying, Love your evil as your self.

What does that mean?

Until you take responsibility for your own capacity for evil you will project it onto your neighbor, making love impossible. So to "love your neighbor as yourself" you must recognize both your interdependence with all other selves, and your own capacity for evil. Seeing your own evil will allow you to have compassion on others struggling with their inner demons. This awareness never excuses evil, but it does help us deal with it without becoming self-righteous.

If every religion teaches lovingkindness, why are people of faith so often lacking in compassion?

Religion is a product of human beings. As such it reflects the dual nature of humanity: love and fear. When the Bible, for example, tells us to love the stranger (Leviticus 19:33) in one passage and commit ethnic cleansing in another (Deuteronomy 7:2), we can be certain the Bible speaks in two voices reflecting the two-fold nature of its human authors. The Voice of Love leads to justice, peace, and kindness. The Voice of Fear leads to violence, exploitation, and cruelty.

So even as a religion teaches the Way of Love, it also sanctions the Way of Fear. People of faith are free to listen to either voice. Over the past decades, religion, especially the religions of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, have fallen under the sway of the Voice of Fear and those whose power comes from it. The people of faith they raise up are too frightened of God and one another to be gracious, gentle, or loving.

What is the one thing that keeps us from practicing the sacred art of lovingkindness?

Fear. Lovingkindness requires courage and trust, two traits that fear makes impossible.

Trust means trusting that the universe is capable of sustaining love. Trust means living without surety, without certainty, without a net; knowing that we can't know the ultimate truth and yet trusting that whatever that truth is it is found in acts of justice, compassion, and humility rather than exploitation, cruelty, and domination.

Since we cannot know that this is so, we have to have the courage to live as if it were so. People who lack the courage to trust are often too afraid to love. They are driven to control what is ultimately uncontrollable: their lives and the lives of others. In their quest for control, they fall into the trap of power seeking and manipulation. They abandon generosity and live in a self-created world of deprivation. They imagine a God who saves some and damns most, who values one strip of land more than another, and one book over all others. Once you fall into the trap of a limited God you fall into the fear-based quest to placate God, and in so doing become more and more limited yourself.

Practicing the sacred art of lovingkindness breaks the illusion of a limited God, ends fear and the violence fear sanctions, and allows you to engage the unknown with humor, grace, and kindness. I can_t imagine devoting ourselves to anything more important than this.



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